How do mothers with more than one child divide their attention equally among their offspring? Haish, baru anak dua rasa mcm tunggang terbalik dah. It is even more apparent sbb skang ni bulan ramadhan, so mula2 rushing nak balik masak, then berbuka. Then I hoist the kids upstairs, mandi, get dressed, and sort out myself, solat dsb nya. Azan Isya' je, Hubs off to the mosque, leaving me to tend the kids. Haaa... masa ni la agak menduga minda, especially kalo adik nak didodoi and kakak duk whining non-stop psl dia bored.
I try spending time with Kakak, buat art stuff, homework, read storybooks and even ajar dia suka2 like qiraati, mathematics (she calls it 'metik metik') and even spelling. I make it a point to do qiraati every night sbb cikgu dia kata that's where she needed help with most. Masa kat UK it felt like x de masa sgt leh spend time dgn dia, skali balik Msia, lg la terasa cpt sehari2 tu berlalu. It is not easy sbb I usually have to entertain adik, and sometimes mid-mengajar I would to pause sbb adik berak, and we had to change his nappies. Sometimes rasa bersalah sbb byk kali minta diri from whatever activity yg tgh buat dgn Kakak bcoz nak tend to adik dulu, baik poo, susu, or even nak tido, tp Kakak Alhamdulillah cool aje, she even found it funny. It is a blessing jgk la gap umur diorg ni jauh, Kakak is so understanding and very doted when it comes to his brother. Cuma time with them rasanya so little je tiap2 mlm, yelah, by 10 pm dah lights-off for the kids to prepare for an early day tomo plak.
Kadang2 aku terlupa plak Aisyah ni baru 5 years old. So many times a day aku lafazkan,'Kakak, tengok adik kejap' or yg sewaktu dgn nya sbb aku nak mandi, masak etc. Sbnarnya, kalo apa2 jd pon, dia mmg bole TENGOK aje la sbb dia x pandai lg nak jaga or dukung adik. Cuma yg terror sket jd tukang report - adik berak, adik tarik rambut, adik masuk mulut benda yg x sepatutnya, etc.
Tapi satu bole puji. Kalo bab entertaining adik, wah, she's a natural. Kdg2 dia menari2 utk adik dia, kdg2 dia mengajar, kdg dia nyanyi, kdg ngaji, ikut sedap dia lah. Skali aku tgk tu, mcm cheerleading pon ada jg, belasah la labu, asal adik x nanges. Yg adik pon, melopongggg... sgt la attentive hehe. So kat situ dpt la beli masa utk diri aku sket, kot nak membersihkan diri or get the colon content moving :P
These two... my fruit hearts (buah hati hehe)... Alhamdulillah...
5 comments:
so sweet gambo esp gambo yang last tuh. my 7th year old aisyah pun memang rajin entertain adik dia. sebijik lah tuh. tukang report, tukang jaga jgn bagi jatuh ... so ada lah masa untuk diri sendiri kan, nak mandi dsb. kadang2 kesian jugak kan dia, kecik2 dah kene tolong entertain adik. apakan daya, ibu takde helper kat rumah
aisyah is such a sweet and helpful kakak, i believe.
i always have this worry- what if the elder sibling feel neglected bila kita terpaksa attend to the younger ones. takut jadi sibling rivalry pulak.
nauzubillah
ololo sweetnya kakak entertain adik :)
we r in the same boat, cumo oyis untung sket sbb aishah dh 5 years dan she's a girl, which mean natural caretaker
mace Abg SN ikut mood dio nk jago adik. kalu maso dio tgk tgh kartun or playing his fav toys...sori la nk tlg tgkkan adik hahaha
pearl: betul tu, kalo x buat mcm tu, alamatnya x mandi x solat la mummy hehe
isabelle: itu yg i takut. so far aisyah x de la zahirkan mcm dia jeles, but still.. mesti ada time2 dia frustrated hearing, 'kjp eh, adik nak .... blah blah blah'. but i suppose mak2 kita dulu pon mcm tu, and we turned out fine. kena strike a balance la kot, bila time adik, bila time kakak. that's the hardest part. but these last few days we sorta have a routine, adik will sleep around an hour earlier than kakak, so masa yg ada mmg fokus solely on aisyah sahaja, before she goes to bed. but this plan i tgk will only work kalo balik kerja terus balik rumah, no singgah mana2 like restoran (makan luar) or supoermarket (shopping). i think the excitement or lari rutin tu buat adik payah tido, so kenalah jd isteri mithali and masak everyday now hoho
kak MZ: hehe... time dia rajin mmg sweet. time malas dia kata dia busy, padahal ngadap iPad tsk tsk tsk...
yatie: girl ni mungkin instict dia lebih sket kot. tp ada jgk time dia malas sbb nak tgk ipad, pastu ipad tu conquer sorg, x sir wi adik jeling pon skrin. dah berebut. mcm2... hok kecik pon, pandai dah. bole ipad bkn setakat nak tgk diam2, dia nak srett srettt scroll screen tu, marah la kawe ni nak tgk kartun di youtube huhu
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